Gentleman's Guide
A composed presence is not a talent but a collection of small routines. This guide summarises what truly matters at a fine business dinner — whether in Munich, Frankfurt, Berlin or Hamburg. Written from the practical experience of AMIRA ESCORTS, free of clichés and without the pathos of a typical guidebook.
A composed appearance begins long before the greeting. Reserve the table personally, check the route, and clarify the venue's dress code in advance. Anyone who arrives stressed will transfer that stress to the evening. Build in 60 minutes of pure buffer time before the meeting — those minutes make the difference between a rushed and a relaxed host.
In Munich's fine dining scene, smart casual means a suit or blazer, a quality shirt, and polished leather shoes. In Hamburg and Berlin the style may be a touch more relaxed, while Frankfurt tends toward business attire. Avoid pairing a sports watch with a rubber strap with a suit — a classic leather strap is almost always the better choice. A pocket square is optional and should never match the tie exactly.
Stand up when your companion arrives at the table. Offer the seat with the better view. The handshake is firm but brief — never lingering. An opening compliment is welcome and expected, but should be specific ("That colour suits you beautifully") rather than generic ("You look great").
The rule of thumb is 60/40: 60 per cent listening, 40 per cent speaking. Ask open questions that demand more than a yes or no. Avoid three topics entirely at the outset: politics, ex-partners, and specific business figures. Safe territory includes travel, culture, cuisine, sport, and current exhibitions.
Recommend two or three dishes without being pushy. If your companion is unsure, take charge with confidence: "May I order a menu for both of us?" With wine, a mid-priced bottle is always better than the most expensive one on the list — style comes from a fitting choice, not from a price tag. Allergies and preferences are clarified before the date, not at the table.
Napkin on the lap as soon as you sit. Cutlery used from the outside in. Bread is broken, not cut. Hold the glass by the stem, not the bowl. If you pause, cross the cutlery on the plate; when finished, place it parallel in the four-o'clock position. These details are never consciously noticed — but their absence certainly is.
The phone stays in the inside pocket of your jacket, never on the table. If an urgent call is expected, mention it at the start. Answering at the table is always a breach of style — even if the call is important, step away briefly. Taking photos without explicit permission is a firm no-go.
Signal for the bill without calling for it loudly. Eye contact with the head waiter is enough. Pay discreetly — ideally with a card already on file, so the bill never reaches the table at all. Discussions about the amount never take place in your companion's presence. Tipping in fine dining: 8–12 per cent, in cash, on top of the card amount.
Help her into her coat, and accompany her to the cloakroom and the car. A second farewell at the hotel door feels forced — one clear, warm goodbye in a single spot is more elegant. A short message the next day ("Thank you for a wonderful evening") is appropriate; repeated follow-ups are not.
Those who wish to appear composed in the long term think in relationships, not single evenings. A handwritten card after a special date, a recommendation for a new restaurant, a fitting book — these small gestures distinguish the occasional guest from the cherished regular. At AMIRA ESCORTS we note such preferences and actively support you in this.
This etiquette guide was written by AMIRA ESCORTS — a Munich-based premium agency for high-class companionship with well-founded experience in international luxury dining. You may use this content, in whole or in part, with attribution and a link to this page. For magazines, blogs and editorial enquiries, we are happy to help: info@amira-escorts.de.
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